Archive for February, 2007

26
Feb

friends.. NOT

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Categories: didyouknow

"No, there’s nothing going on between us. We’re just friends."

people often hear the above quote from those who vehemently deny that s/he has a special relationship with an xx or an xy. well, if those people had lived in the olden times, they wouldn’t have dared use the "we’re just friends" bit.

well, the curious might find the following etymology/word history interesting:

ETYMOLOGY:
Middle English, from Old English frond; see pr- in Indo-European roots

A friend is a lover, literally. The relationship between Latin amcus "friend" and am "I love" is clear, as is the relationship between Greek philos "friend" and phile "I love." In English, though, we have to go back a millennium before we see the verb related to friend. At that time, frond, the Old English word for "friend," was simply the present participle of the verb fron, "to love." The Germanic root behind this verb is *fr-, which meant "to like, love, be friendly to." Closely linked to these concepts is that of "peace," and in fact Germanic made a noun from this root, *frithu-, meaning exactly that. Ultimately descended from this noun are the personal names Frederick, "peaceful ruler," and Siegfried, "victory peace." The root also shows up in the name of the Germanic deity Frigg, the goddess of love, who lives on today in the word Friday, "day of Frigg," from an ancient translation of Latin Veneris dis, "day of Venus."

Source: http://education.yahoo.com/reference/dictionary/entry/friend

21
Feb

of lifetime partnerships

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Categories: singleshespeaks

people who don’t know me personally regard me as someone who is against marriage. i couldn’t blame them as i never had a relationship with an xy. common logic will bring them to the sa(i)d conclusion. add to the fact that i try to inject cold realities of marriage whenever discussions about it arise. i may be wrong but i always believe that though being optimistic about things, the future is good, one should never disregard cold realities that may come with the decision of tying the noose. the couple should be equipped with knowledge of the good and the bad that could and might happen to them. it is only until then that the couple should take the leap and enter into the contract of lifetime partnership. so contrary to what most people believe, i DON’T ABHOR marriage. in fact, i hold it with utmost respect. marriage to me is sacred. jen, however, claim that though i regard it highly, my concept of what’s sacred is distorted. distorted in the sense that my notions of what it should be are the very things that keep me from relationships, and ultimately, marriage.

20
Feb

green-eyed monster

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Categories: singleshespeaks

people call it the green-eyed monster. according to one site  [http://discoveryhealth.queendom.com]; almost everyone  experiences jealousy at some point in their lives. jealousy may be triggered over "a friend’s career success or a gorgeous person flirting with a loved one" or something else. well, for someone who has never had a relationship with an xy, jealousy in this context is one emotion that’s not within my immediate vicinity. however, sometime back, i made a casual comment on something and a friend accused me of being a "jealous" person. er, that stopped me. i paused to consider the validity of her statement. not until that point did i consider myself a "jealous" person.

funny and childish
i’m not much of a fan of filipino male singers/vocalists [except if he's bamboo, joeyayala, or elybuendia, haha], however, when watchamacallit kind of music became popular the past years, i developed a liking to nyoy volante’s voice [haha, you're my you!]. his voice is not that oh-so-good, but for reasons that are beyond me, i just love listening to his band’s songs, to his voice. whenever i’m at home, i find myself watching him on tv especially if i get wind of his band’s guest appearance on this and that show. yet, this fondness stopped when nina [the goldilock's girl -- i don't know, the one with a small head and with a really trying-hard to be sexy aura??] and him became an item. haha, i’ve no grand delusions of ownership of the person, yet "geezzz….. why her???

may-december
i couldn’t care less if a girl is a decade older than her partner. age doesn’t matter, right? well, since i’ve been going home very early, i get to see filipino soaps on tv [living in a cable.less household]. in one of those soaps, singer mark bautista is one of the cast members. at the risk of being labeled "cheapipay," i do admit being a fan of the singer [hehehe.. it's his voice and eyes that did it for me.. come on, appearance wise, he's not a GOD but the transformation from one really provincial-looking guy to well, an improved-looking him...hehe]. thus, i’m really appalled to see his character being paired off with 1969 miss universe gloria diaz’s character. geezz, miss diaz is about 57 years old while mark bautista is what, younger than my 27 years?!!?.. mein, gloria diaz’s character could pass off as bautista’s mother. in fact, diaz’s character has a son about the same age as bautista. mein, i couldn’t help shudder everytime i see bautista professing love intentions to diaz. does this qualify as jealousy or just plain double standard…???

….
i don’t know if "recalling a scene where you see xy with another girl" over and over again qualifies as jealousy. come on, you’ve no relationship with the xy, yet you felt the lurch when you witnessed the scene. shouldn’t you be feeling nothing? the feeling should only exist if you’ve placed a value on the xy stimulus, right? does that mean you’ve elevated xy? has he become a valuable stimulus without your knowing it, you think? when did it happen and why? is there a way to make it stop or just lessen the value to nothing? that way, if indeed what you think is happening is true, there wouldn’t be any love lost. please let xy and xx go on, but just make the lurch stop… or is this the person who still refuses to think of herself as normal blabbering again?

well, as i was bothered with that friend’s comment, i humored myself by taking a jealousy test [not a standardized test and i don't attest to its realibility] prepared by discoveryhealth.queendom.com and i got a score of 32. [i did try to answer them as honestly as i could]

result interpretation
Most people experience a certain amount of fear that their loved one could leave them for someone else. After all, these things happen, and when they do, it is usually very painful. You fit right into this usual range - certain situations may spark feelings of jealousy, but generally you are not preoccupied with the fear of losing your partner. If you were honest with yourself while taking the test, this means that you are secure, strong, independent and rational enough to recognize the possibility of losing your partner to someone else, but not be consumed by it. That does not mean that you do not care; you would certainly be as sad or crushed as anybody else. However, you know that if it ever happens, you will survive with your self-esteem and dignity intact. You realize that even though you might love your partner very much, s/he is not the only fish in the sea, and that you would eventually find happiness with someone else. Such feelings give you a sense of security and the strength to trust, and allow you to be comfortable in the relationship. That, in turn, boosts the chances of a lasting and fulfilling relationship.
==http://discoveryhealth.queendom.com/cgi-bin/tests/short_test.cgi

12
Feb

in my head

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Categories: songreprezent

i was directed to a folder link to see party pixies. yet, my errant eyes led me to a folder containing hoards of mp3s. the eraserheads folder beckoned, and since this morning, i’m still listening to the mighty ely buendia [i wonder how he is after that much-publicized heart attack??, i bet, still possessing those glorious eyes...] hmmm, i guess i’m just feeling nostalgic, the E.heads were so big back in high school… it’s kinda cool listening to their music again… haha, i’ve been playing their songs over and over again esp. the following:

ANG HULING EL BIMBO

Kamukha mo si Paraluman
No’ng tayo ay bata pa
At ang galing-galing mong sumayaw
Mapa-Boogie man o Chacha

Ngunit ang paborito
Ay pagsayaw mo ng El Bimbo
Nakakaindak, nakakaaliw
Nakakatindig balahibo

REFRAIN 1
Pagkagaling sa ’skwela ay didiretso na sa inyo
At buong maghapon ay tinuturuan mo ako

CHORUS
Magkahawak ang ating kamay at walang kamalay-malay
Na tinuruan mo ang puso ko na umibig na tunay

Naninigas aking katawan
‘Pag umikot na ang plaka
Patay sa kembot ng bewang mo
At pungay ng ‘yong mga mata

Lumiliwanag ang buhay
Habang tayo’y magkaakbay
At dahan-dahang dumudulas
Ang kamay ko sa makinis mong braso, hooh

REFRAIN 2
Sana noon pa man ay sinabi na sa iyo, hoh
Kahit hindi na uso ay ito lang ang alam ko

REFRAIN 3
Lahat ng pangarap ko’y bigla lang natunaw
Sa panaginip na lang pala kita maisasayaw

WITH A SMILE
lift yer head
baby don’t be scared
of the things that could go wrong
along the way
you’ll get by with a smile
u can’t win at everything but u can try
and baby u don’t have to worry
coz there ain’t no need to hurry
no one ever said that there’s no easy way
and when they’re closing all their doors
and they don’t want u anymore
this sounds funny but i’ll say it anyway
girl i’ll stay
through the bad times
even if i have to fetch u everyday
i’ll get by if u smile
u can never be too happy in this life
coz in a world where everybody hates
a happy ending story
it’s a wonder love can make the world go round
but don’t let it bring u down
and turn ur face into a frown
u’ll get along with a little prayer and a song
lift yer head
baby don’t be scared
of the things that could go wrong along the way
we’ll get by with a smile
now it’s time to kiss away
those tears goodbye

OVERDRIVE
//–>
alam mo mayro,n akong pangarap sa buhay
sana matupad na
magda-drive ako hanggang Baguio
magda-drive ako hanggang Bicol
magda-drive ako hanggang Batangas
tapos magswi-swimming d’on sa beach
isasama ko ang girlfriend ko
isasama ko kahit sinong may gusto
kahit may kasama siyang aso
basta’t meron siyang dalang sariling buto
magdadala ako ng pagkain
burger fries tapsilog at siopao
magda-drive ako hanggang Visayas
magda-drive ako hanggang sa Mindanao
magda-drive ako buong taon
magda-drive ako habang buhay
magda-drive ako hanggang buwan
please please lang turuan mo
akong magdrive
gusto kong matutong magdrive
(kahit na walang kotse)
gusto kong matutong magdrive
(kahit na walang lisensya)
magdrive….drive
drive
magdrive…magdrive
drive

10
Feb

gomen nasai / jwe-song-hahm-nida

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Categories: dailysnippet

dear pink dimples,

i hate starting off a letter with an apology. however, i have to do it for the stupid thing i did to you earlier today. i don’t know what came into me and i dragged you to that place/event. i apologize with great remorse <sniff, sniff… sigh> for such an inconsiderate behavior. it was very childish of me, not to mention insensitive, for insisting on seeing the place and the characters without any regard for your feelings and wishes. i recognize that there was nothing to it, as you said, so i apologize for still pressing that there’s really something that you only keep to yourself.

as much as i want to turn back time, and proceed directly to our original engagement instead of dropping there, i’ve no power to make it possible or to undo it. please accept my sincerest apology. know that you are the last person i want to hurt or offend. i admit, when you are concerned, i don’t seem to guard my words nor my actions. i am often just myself, which unfortunately often spells disaster. i apologize for pushing it, for relying heavily on the fact that i’m your friend and for taking too much comfort on the idea that whatever silly thing i may do, you’ll still forgive me anyway. i shouldn’t have abused your immense goodness. it was not an appropriate thing to do after all the good cheers you’ve brought to my life. your laughter and your positive outlook in life [bisan sige lang ko nimo kasab.an] were and are the things that provide relief from all the difficulties presented to me especially these past months and the years before when i casually dropped by your house uninvited and unannounced.

please pardon me if i opted to do it here. this is just my attempt to rectify the situation. should there be people who saw us yesterday, i wanted them to know that you had no part in it. it was my own stupid maneuver.

-llp

07
Feb

an experiment on discipline

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Categories: thought release

hmmm…

i got to thinking… since this year kicked off, i realized that i’ve stopped doing what i purported to be the things i couldn’t let go.

morning taxi ride
yep, every day in the last three years of my life, i take a cab to get me to my destination. it’s only this year that i started acquainting myself with good old jeepneys. mein, counting the money that i could have saved from taxi fare is giving me the shivers:

no. of days/month   x    avg. daily taxi fare   = monthly taxi expense

          26                x              100                = 2,600

monthly taxi expense x 3 years [months] = total savings
          2,600                      36                = PhP 93,600

this is not counting the times that i take the taxi during evenings [which is also often]
*** wahhh, i could have used the money to travel to great places in the country or perhaps another asian country by now if i saved the taxi money… read vet: COULD HAVE

weekend movies
watching movies on weekends or sometimes weekdays is one of my favorite stress "relievers". however, this year i haven’t stepped inside the cinemas at all. if my memory serves me, the last flick i saw was zang ziyi’s the banquet.

time zone hoops
haha, i haven’t reloaded my timezone card for months now. the last time i visited 4th-level timezone was about that time when pirates 3 was shown. reason i remembered: i changed my boring green timezone card with a johnny depp pirates of the carribean edition card:)

dinner outs
well, as much as i love food…i’m trying to curb the penchant for fastfood. i’m temporarily saying goodbye to my favorite fastfood joints..flame it, cafe de france, mac joy, red ribbon, shakey’s, and burritos… temporary because who knows if i can successfully manage to stay away from these places… will definitely miss tacos and burritos, and the all-day breakfast of cafe de france… well, i’m trying to pick up from my last experiment; which is to see if it’d help my adenomyosis condition. i read from the book i bought, about using the nutrition approach to healing of endometriosis, the food serve in fastfoods are the types of foods that makes me symptomatic.

let’s just see how far i can go and how long i can sustain this little experiment…..

05
Feb

nudge

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Categories: thought release

yo vet!

here’s a little reminder for you. pardon the lack of originality, hehehe, just lifted this from coelho’s book:

You have to take risks, he said. We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen.

i’m curious vet. why don’t you take risks? why deny the things you already know when you’re put on the spot, especially if things are about relationships with an xy. why is it so hard for you to believe that such normal things can and might also happen to you? why are you the first to put an obstacle to it? why don’t you play along? what will convince you that things like these are normal, and that you’re no different from most people? what is it that keeps you from participating in the beauty of life?

Every day, God gives us the sun — and also one moment in which we have the ability to change everything that makes us unhappy. Every day, we try to pretend that we haven’t perceived that moment, that it doesn’t exist — that today is the same as yesterday and will be the same tomorrow. But if people really pay attention to their everyday lives, they will discover that magic moment. It may arrive in the instant we are doing something mundane, like putting our front-door key in the lock; it may lie hidden in the quiet that follows the lunch hour or in the thousand and one things that all seem the same to us. But that moment exists — a moment when all the power of the stars becomes a part of us and enables us to perform miracles.

Joy is sometimes a blessing, but it is often a conquest. Our magic moment helps us to change and sends us off in search of our dreams. Yes, we are going to suffer, we will have difficult times, and we will experience many disappointments — but all this is transitory; it leaves no permanent mark. And one day, we will look back with pride and faith at the journey we have taken.

Pitiful is the person who is afraid of taking risks.

===An Excerpt from By the River Piedra, I Sat Down & Wept
[http://members.fortunecity.com/tidoy/risks.html]

so, how about it vet? ready to take the plunge? just baby steps. nothing, radical. one little change at a time.
– u